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As for the current publication i don't find this book really covers new ground. It's hard to get past the shameless self-promotion- Real had one idea which proved popular (though for the life of me I don't know why anyone would find such confrontational manipulation healing) and he has parlayed it into a national business. Either he was very lucky or had a great publicist. Use the money you save not buying this book and take your partner to dinner. It will be better for you all around.
If you are reading this review you probably know how complex, confusing, and overwhelming love relationships can be. Real's book "I Don't Want To Talk About It". Be prepared to be given straight talk about what you can do to learn and grow.
He has accurate, profound insights that provide the understanding we all need to transform and empower our relationships into examples of "full-respect living". Not only new hope for your relationships, but new hope for those of your children too. Terrence Real clears the smoke and breaks relationship "rules" down into truthful, applicable concepts.
Be prepared to have new hope. Be prepared to hear things that will frighten you. It will frighten you because you will learn how you and your partner now relate in toxic ways that do not work.
PS If you or any of the men in your life deal with depression, check out Mr. Again, Terrence Real knows his "stuff".
I read TR's previous two books while trying to save my 16-yr old marriage. In hindsight, TR punched through the psychobabble of 4 previous therapists and hit home on how both of us were sabotaging the relationship. I even went to see him for a full-day (w/ my ex-) and a half-day. Full cost: $11,000. Our marriage was one of those were the woman was running from self-analysis and I sought the safe-space of a therapists office. Net net, she didn't take his advice and I did (to be more honest and less nice) - which he had predicted; two months later we separated and I am now in a much more intimate, loving relationship with my second wife.
The many case examples and real examples of what "to do" are very useful. As a therapist and a married person I find Terry Real's work to be extremely helpful. It is practical direct and hopeful. This book is easily read by therapists and lay people alike. Its an easy read and I recommend it.
Rather like "Dr. Mr. it hurts when I do this." "So stop doing it." Also as other reviewers noted -it really sinks into self-aggrandisement. Real's first 2 books are useful in understanding male depression and how that blocks and prevents men from finding intimacy. However as he says himself in this book his message boils down to-be nice to each other. Beware when anyone seeking to "enlighten" you begins to suggest they have the TRUE knowledge, and only They have it. Save your money.
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